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Sibs in the City

And just like that, three years have passed since Mom died. Oct. 27 was the anniversary of her death.

Earlier this month, Laura, Jeff and I spent a weekend together in New York to celebrate Mom. The year she died, we got together shortly after her funeral for a November weekend in New York, where Jeff and Laura lived at the time. We decided then that we would gather each fall for a weekend in memory of Mom. I call it Sibs in the City. And we have kept that promise to ourselves.

Below is a photo of us having drinks at the Whitby Hotel in New York on Oct. 6 after seeing a matinee of a terrific play. Our annual agenda would be roughly the same if Mom were along for the trip: some moderately fine dining, but nothing too fancy; a Broadway show – or two, or three; a little shopping; a museum exhibit if we can fit it in; blocks and blocks of walking; and time for a midday nap.

It is something positive associated with losing our mom.

We texted each other on Saturday (Oct. 27), Jeff first.

Jeff: Happy Mom day. Thinking of you two.
Me: Same to you. Will be writing a blog post. Love you.
Laura: Love to you both. You and Mom have been on my mind today.

Mourning the loss of a parent is an unpredictable experience, and we all grieve in our own way. I’m grateful, though, that the three of us have elected to lean into the shared experience, so at least sometimes, we don’t have to do it alone.

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